Setting Up Your Compass

Setting Up Your UVettd Compass

Your goal here is to teach UVettd what matters to you specifically — so that every evaluation Yvette runs is measured against your values, not a generic compatibility template. Without Compass, scores are approximate. With it, they're personal.

What Compass Actually Does

The UVettd Compass maps your values, weighted by importance, and pairs them with your Never-Agains — the behaviors and patterns that are off the table based on your past experience. Once set, Compass feeds into every CAMERA Method™ Report Yvette generates. Two people evaluating the same prospect will get different scores if their Compass profiles differ, because alignment is relative to the person doing the evaluating.

Think of Compass as the lens. Vetted is the camera. You can't get an accurate picture without the right lens in place.

Full Mode vs. Quick Mode

Full Mode walks you through a structured set of value categories — things like communication style, family orientation, financial philosophy, personal growth, and faith or spirituality — and asks you to weight each one on a 1–10 scale. It takes 15–20 minutes and gives Yvette the richest possible calibration. Use Full Mode when you're starting fresh, re-entering dating after a significant relationship, or feel like past evaluations haven't felt accurate.

Quick Mode surfaces a shorter list of high-signal values and asks for rough weighting. It takes 5–7 minutes. Use Quick Mode if you've done Compass before and just want to recalibrate a few things, or if you want to get into Vetted quickly and plan to refine your Compass later.

You can upgrade from Quick Mode to Full Mode at any time — your existing weights will be preserved and expanded, not overwritten.

The 1–10 Weighting System

A checklist tells you what you care about. The weighting system tells Yvette how much. Two people might both list "financial responsibility" as a value, but one person might weight it at a 4 and another at a 9. That difference changes the entire scoring calculus for every prospect they evaluate.

When you're assigning weights, try to think in terms of: if this value were absent in a partner, how much would that cost the relationship long-term? A 10 means absence is a near-dealbreaker even if everything else is good. A 3 means it matters but it's not the hill you'd die on. The scale is yours to interpret — there are no right answers, only honest ones.

Never-Agains — Setting Your Hard Limits

Never-Agains are different from low-weighted values. They're behavioral patterns drawn from your actual history — the things you've encountered in past relationships that you know, from lived experience, will not work for you. The name is intentional: these aren't abstract preferences, they're evidence-based limits.

Five common Never-Again categories to consider:

• Controlling behavior — monitoring your plans, friendships, or communications
• Emotional unavailability — chronic deflection, stonewalling, or inability to engage with your emotional reality
• Financial dishonesty — hiding debt, misrepresenting income, financial manipulation
• Dismissiveness — minimizing your concerns, invalidating your feelings, sarcasm as a deflection tool
• Addiction patterns — active substance misuse without acknowledgment or recovery effort

When a Never-Again is triggered in an evaluation, it overrides the composite CAMERA Method™ score — regardless of how high that score is. A 9.2 with a Never-Again flag is still a flagged evaluation.

What Happens If You Change Your Values Later

You can update your Compass at any time from your profile settings. When you save changes, UVettd offers you a re-calibration prompt: do you want existing evaluations recalculated using your new weights? If you accept, all your CAMERA Method™ Reports are updated automatically. If you decline, only future evaluations use the new Compass. Either choice is valid — it depends on whether you think the change represents genuine growth or just a temporary shift in what you're prioritizing.

The science behind values alignment as a compatibility predictor: uvettd.com/research-foundations

Common questions about this topic

Can I change my values after setting them?

Yes, as many times as you want. Your Compass is meant to evolve with you. The re-calibration prompt will ask whether to update existing scores — that's the only decision you'll need to make when you save changes.

What's the difference between Full Mode and Quick Mode?

Full Mode covers a broader range of value categories with deeper weighting granularity — it takes longer but gives Yvette a richer calibration. Quick Mode is a streamlined version for faster setup or light recalibration. Both feed into the same scoring engine; Full Mode just gives it more to work with.

How many Never-Agains should I set?

There's no minimum or maximum, but most users find that 3–7 feels honest and specific. More than 10 starts to look like a preference list rather than genuine hard limits. If you're listing something as a Never-Again, ask yourself: have I actually encountered this, and did it materially damage a relationship? That's the bar.

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